50 SHADES OF GREY

50 Shades of Grey just goes to prove what I've been saying for a long time. It is not “sex” our culture is obsessed with; it’s illicit, immoral sex. Take two people, marry them, put rings on their fingers, stick them in a bedroom and say, “have all the sex you want” it’s our cultural obsession, go for it, have at it…… they’ll be out in 20 minutes tops, reading their blogs, eating or watching T.V. and may not enter that bedroom for a repeat for another 7 days or so. (What happened to our obsession with sex?) Couples today in monogamous relationships are averaging sex about once per week and that’s a couple with a healthy relationship. The two biggest problems in marriage today is finances and sex and it both situations the complaint is the same, “not enough!”.  50 Shades of Grey makes it plain and clear, it’s not sex we are obsessed about, it’s the knottiness of it. The knottier the better! My wife, my husband, aghhhhh, that’s not exciting. Exciting for men was the “thrill of the hunt” being able to go to a party or bar, and approach a complete stranger and by the end of the night be in the most intimate position together. There was something that felt intrinsically wrong with that….., and we liked it!  The woman in my bed, that I have a right too (for lack of better words) no fun in that. I can have her anytime (in theory at least). It’s what we instinctively know we don’t have a right too that appeals to us, it’s “the forbidden fruit” that we so desire, that attracts us and lures us. We read in the beginning of man kind “of this tree(s) you may eat all you want, but not this tree”. And of course they are lured to the tree they can’t have, the forbidden fruit. King David, a man married to many beautiful women, who can have sex with them anytime and as often as he desires is more concerned and wanting, desiring to have sex with another man’s wife that he sees bathing across from his rooftop. Our problem (and we do have a problem) is not that we are obsessed with sex (if only that was the truth) our problem is we are obsessed with immoral sex, that’s what turns us on, taking what we don’t’ have a right to take and getting away with it (or so it seems at the time). It is our basic sin nature and it is on full display (no pun intended) in 50 Shades of Grey and it really is nothing to brag about. Anyone can be base, anyone can be immoral and anyone can be perverted. Is perversion, baseness, lewdness, immorality really where we want to go? And if we say, “yes, it’s definitely where I want to go” let me ask you, is it where you want your children to go too? Will it be alright for your daughter to be caught up in perversion, S&M, and broken relationships, unwanted pregnancies and/or abortions? Is it your ambition that one day your daughter would grow up to be a celebrated porn star, living out her sexual fantasies each day, why not right?!  It is naïve to think that where our feet trespass, that the little feet of our children will not one day soon follow. It is well documented that the disintegration of any and all civilizations that have ever come to be extinct or disintegrated to the lowest level, have always started and ended with the practice of immorality, lewdness and baseness, of the people in that civilization. I am not glad about the success of 50 Shades of Grey, but I am glad that they got it right, we are not obsessed with sex, we are obsessed with immoral sex. It’s sad to think, that man hasn’t changed or learned one lesson in 2000 years, we still so desperately want and are so obsessed, with having the “forbidden fruit!” It is what taste so good, but in the end, true to the Proverb, leaves you sick to your stomach, sweet to the mouth, but sour and bitter in the stomach it will be to all who partake. What separates us from animals, is not that we don’t have fleshly cravings, appetites and desires, but that we, unlike animals, reign them in, exercise self control and choose the moral ground of our God given Conscience. When we loose that, when we abandon that or worse, sear our consciences then we regress and become as base as animals. If you have shoes I want, then I kill you to get them. If you look good to me and I want you and you don’t want to join in, then I rape you. If you offend me, then I will return to kill you.  The point or question is not “do men and women really get off from this kind of sex” the question is what happens when we start giving into every sinful indulgence we desire? Where do we draw the line once it has been blurred? What’s fair game then? It’s now open wide, no age limits, no gender limits, no family limits, now all morality becomes 50 different shades of Grey and ohhhh, it is so good! Or so we think………….